Why don’t we speak about the widespread problems with a partner who is going through a midlife crisis.
I’m supposing that you are a partner whom found out that your other half got up some day and his awesome personality had been kidnapped by an alien.
Because up to that point in time you thought everything was going alright, you thought you had a great marriage. Ok. it wasn’t perfect but then suddenly your partner begins complaining about almost everything, letting you know that they have been depressed for a long time and you know what, it’s all your fault!
Don’t take it personally
Now it’s natural that you should take it personally, to be hurt to be depressed, to be mystified. But at this point time the worst thing you could do is take it personally.
There are plenty of reasons a partner will have a midlife crisis it may be simply because they are reaching an age or maybe it’s because they suddenly lost a close relative, or it could be because they have lost their job recently. There are loads and loads of reasons that a partner could have a midlife crisis and they are going to pin the blame on the particular person who is sitting across from them.
Don’t blame or justify
You really need to breathe deeply and relax before anything else, it isn’t really about you. Regardless how persuasive their justifications may be, so you should not take it personally.
Next please don’t argue with them, don’t tell them that their are completely wrong, never take out articles from magazines demonstrating them that lots of people have midlife crises, it’s not likely to help.
Actuality the more often you try to prove to them wrong, the deeper you are likely to push them into believing that they knows they are correct.
Time to dig deep
Next, you will need to pull together all your strength and behave as if you know that eventually things are going to be fine.
You will will get your partner back, they will return to their normal loving personality and do all the stuff that you’d typically do if you weren’t so stressed.
Just behave as life is going to be normal yet again, even when in your heart of hearts you are afraid that this is not going to be. Just stop listen to that voice and just carry on normally. It will raise the chances that it will finally happen.
Look after yourself
Lastly, with all the guidance written here throughout this blog what you have to do is work out how you are able to actually comfort yourself, look after yourself, focus on you, meet up with friends, read books, meditate.
Just take care of yourself as the road to emerging from a midlife crisis could take some time. So it’s going to take plenty of determination and strength, you can get there.